I am OK

 I am Ok


A former Manor student, from 20 years ago, made contact today. Every few years, he reaches out to let me know that he is ok and I am always thankful.  His life was never a joyful journey.  He did not have a childhood. He had a survivor-hood.


Homelessness and struggling mental health are part of his journey, but today he is ok.  He is stable.  He has a place to live. He has food. He is ok. 


He shared that he finds hope that when he struggled as a student that his teachers and one old principal always loved him and never gave up on him.  This is his anchor when the storm of mental health swirls. 


I shared with my friend not to worry about his past  but to focus on where he is going.  He shared back, “If it is to be; it is up to me. They do remember our words. 


I will always be thankful that former students reach out and make contact.  Sometimes to share joy.  Sometimes for support and direction. Sometimes just to let you know they are ok.


Never forget that on their best days and on their  worse days, your students sense your love for them.  You matter in the hearts of your students. Never forget that you matter. 


Once a student, always a student.  


I know my friend's journey will continue to have struggles.  Today, I am thankful that my friend is ok.

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